I guess it is really true that unless you have lost a loved one you really are not aware of what others feel like. Even then I would suggest we not say, " I know how you feel." Because you probably don't really. Their feelings are unknown to you. You may have some empathy because you have gone through a similiar experience. It certainly brings home the shortness of life. It brings home a lot of things really. It puts you in a fog and cloudy day. The sun does not seem to be shining even though it may be there physically. I am not sure how the loved one would want us to react, but I do not think they would want us to be moping around all, " woe is me." That is for sure. So it is good to take those good memories and sayings of the one we have lost and put them out there to ponder. I am trying to do that, slowly.